Do Something

“Gosh, there’s just so much to do and so little time.” “I’ve always wanted to do that, but I haven’t yet.” “I’ll get to it, it’s on the list!” These are just a few phrases I catch myself saying on the “daly” haha, get it? Not that anything is wrong with recognizing that life goes fast and there is much to be done; however, particularly around the time of summer, it becomes normal for my peers to struggle finding the balance between the attempt of cramming a million and one things into their short summer, while simultaneously using the time to do things that can’t be done during the school year: sleep & be lazy. Summer also becomes the focal point of empty promises with the inevitable “We should totally hang out sometime…” and we all know that never happens.

Why is that? Why is it that we have big dreams and large plans that only fall flat the typical rat race of our days? Why is it that we want to do everything, but in reality…most of the time we are doing nothing? Now wait, before you take offense, I assure you that I understand that most of us are not actually sitting around doing “nothing.” Most of the time, we are running around with a to-do list a mile long without a spare moment to breathe. What I really mean is that we fail to fill our free time with the things we really want to do. We let summer after summer go by without achieving our goals and making it the best it can be–we are constantly looking forward to the next exciting opportunity rather than embracing the present. Well, this summer, I decided to make a change.

One of my absolute favorite songs is “Do Something” by Matthew West. This song encourages you to not only sit around and wish the world was different, but to go out and “be the change you want to see.” If you haven’t heard it, I suggest you give it a listen. This summer, I started off by immediately making a bucket list that would encompass all I wanted to do. It was broken down into four categories and would include things that benefit my personal habits, social activities, finances, and relaxation. From there, I was able to outline those specific goals to ensure they were able to be met.

The key here, folks is that I no longer make “plans.” Plans involve tedious logistics that can be altered and discouraging if not met accordingly. I’ve decided to only make “passionate goals” from here on out. The difference is that now I look at the bigger picture, set those goals, and gain satisfaction from meeting them in good time. Instead of focusing on the steps to achieve said goals, I now focus on what makes me happy and what needs to be done to to ensure future happiness. Life is too short to be anything, but happy…so putting one’s own emotional status as a priority is essential for being content with one’s day-to-day life.

Next time you catch yourself wishing you would do something or don’t allow enough time/effort to make yourself a priority, take a step back, reevaluate, and do what you need to do to gain that inner peace. It’s amazing how effective passionate goals can be when you start doing what you want and filling your life with meaningful experiences!

What I Actually Learned in College: Tara’s Tips & Tricks for the Collegiate Experience

It’s no secret that college is the BEST and FASTEST four years of your life. It feels like just yesterday I was crying about graduating high school, “tara-fied” of what the future would hold. “Where do I go to college? What do I major in?” These questions suffocated my everyday conversations with no hope for escape. Fast forward: Now, here I am about to embark on the next phase of life while holding tight to the irreplaceable experience over the last four years at JCU. I can’t believe how fast time went–but I did it! Check out my top 15 lessons learned over my undergraduate years!

Dear Freshman Tara,

I’ve definitely learned a lot over the last few years. From academics to adult-ing 101, I thought I would highlight a few of the life lessons acquired:

1. You must conquer your fear of public bathrooms. *laugh if you must, but this fear is legitimate and crosses every freshman’s mind as they learn the ways of communal bathrooms*

2. Always keep your leftovers even if you think you won’t eat them. Because when you realize you’re desperate for food, you’ll eat it. Or you can share with roommates!

3. If there is free stuff in the atrium, take it! You never know when you may need a pencil blessed by a priest.

4. Always keep your roommates’ numbers on speed dial in case you’re trapped by a BIG HONKIN SPIDER in your apartment and need immediate backup. *Yep, it’s happened. After 45 minutes, 8 ounces of tears, and 3 roommates working together, the deed was done*

5. Always bring napkins back home when you go out to eat. If you have a car, keep napkins in it! Even if you don’t eat in your car…trust me. They will come in handy in case a spider wants to make an appearance.

6. Keep chopsticks in your apartment in case you need to make a spider Shish Kabob because the vacuum, bleach, and sheer will power aren’t enough to exterminate it.

Okay okay, relax. You probably think these tips are all about spiders. Rest assured, that’s it, but they significantly impacted my senior year, thus the issue needed to be addressed. You’ll thank me later. Let’s continue:

7. Memorize important phone numbers of roommates, friends, and family because if you’re stranded downtown at 3am during Game 6 of the World Series with a dead cellphone, and don’t have money for an Uber, you’ll want to know the right number to call off of someone else’s phone.

8. Don’t make enemies. Especially if you attend a small college. Even if someone rubs you the wrong way, be nice to everyone you meet.

9. Always hold the door for a fellow student/professor/human. Do not let it slam on them or you will be marked as a rude individual.

10. If you don’t already, invest in a credit card. We are all in deep student loan debt–the least we can do is build ourselves good credit card credit.

11. Send snail mail cards to friends at different universities. Even if you don’t receive any in return, I promise it will make a difference in their days as well as yours.

12. Go to the career center. Even if it is painfully awkward, there are scholarships and career-enhancing resources that go unnoticed by the everyday student. Take advantage of all they have to offer.

13. Never settle for a major, career, or situation that makes you unhappy! Seek any and all experiences to make life worthwhile.

14. Don’t be scared of unpaid internships. Yes, of course it’s not ideal, but if you find the right ones, you’ll gain irreplaceable experiences that will last a lifetime. *Also, if you make connections with the career center as mentioned in lesson #12, you may find ways to get funding for those internships!*

15. Do something that scares you. Go out of your comfort zone and the results will amaze you. I owe a lot to my decision to go through sorority recruitment and I am grateful for all of the opportunities.

I hope this makes you laugh while assuring you that college will teach you so much more than academic subject matter. This is your chance to discover who you truly are and simultaneously make memories that will last you a lifetime.

Best,

Post-Grad Tara

Maybe If I Ignore It, It Will Go Away: Part 2 of the G-Word Saga

If you’ve been following my collegiate endeavors, you know how hard it was to pick a college and pick a major. For the longest time, I was convinced that I would NEVER find a major for my indecisive self. From the very beginning, I knew I was different. I didn’t want a career in which I felt trapped. I didn’t want to be consumed in the rat-race of life. Life is so much more than making money and moving up the ladder. Yes, money and upward mobility are an added bonus, but it shouldn’t be the motivating factor behind all actions.

So what does this mean for after the g-word? Instead of panicking about my future, I have decided to be full-blown cheesy and follow my heart. I am officially announcing that I have been accepted to work for The Walt Disney Company. I have no certainty in my role, the future, or the upward mobility….I just know that I am following my heart and pursuing what is really important in life: experience.

For those that are searching for a job, waiting for acceptance into grad school, pacing around the room hoping that an ounce of an epiphany will shine through the window…you can do it. This is just the next step in your life…not your whole life. You don’t always need immediate answers. Do what makes you happy and seek any and all experiences that make you feel full of life…and the rest will come with time.

 

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Maybe If I Ignore It, It will Go Away: A Saga About Confronting the G-Word & Finding Peace in the Future

Hello, it’s me. Four years later and it’s the same old routine. I’ve found comfort in my everyday activities, fallen in love with the relationships I’ve established, and found my home in everything I do. Back in 2013, I had a reputation as, “The-girl-that-didn’t-want-to-go-to-college.”

Now, let me tell you, it wasn’t because I didn’t desire higher education. It was the anxiety-provoking thought of leaving everything I’ve invested so much time and effort in over the last four years and potentially losing all of it that I dreaded. I also couldn’t fathom the idea of making the “right” decision. It’s no secret that my family had a very different plan for my collegiate experience than I had for myself. Over time, I realized there was no “right” decision. It was the decision that was best for me and my dreams and the answer would eventually follow. But, until I had that personal revelation, every family function became the exciting time of asking, “Does Tara know what she’s doing yet?” or “Is she finally ready to talk about it?” The summer before my senior year, my family took our very first big family vacation and I made a rule before we left that we couldn’t talk about college. Thankfully, most of them were able to abide by my policy, but it didn’t make college “go away.”

Now, here I am about to g-word from college. Where in the heck did the time go? I may not have an answer for that, but what I do have is confidence. Confidence in myself, my abilities, and that everything will work out in the end. Yes, I still resonate with senior-year-of-high-school-Tara by getting butterflies about the uncertain future and by discouraging discussion of things such as the g-word, future, and senior-oriented festivities. HOWEVER, after going to college and seeing that everything I was so worried about losing from high school has remained in tact, I’m solidifying my confidence in everything I’ve invested in during these last 4 years. I’m confident that the connections, friendships, and memories I’ve worked so hard to create will follow me wherever I go in whatever I do.

I’m not worried about the future and I don’t have a 5 year plan. I am however, cognizant of future endeavors, such as paying back loans and finding stability in a career, but that’s not what life is about. Life is about seeking experience and memories that will last you a lifetime.

Finding this confidence does not mean I’m by any means ready to move on or g-word by any means, but it does mean that I am ready to live life everyday with a positive attitude for both now and in the future. I hope that those of you also in the same g-word boat don’t wish this time away to move into the future too quickly, but take each day as a gift and encourage others to do the same. That, my friends is what we should be concerning ourselves with each day. Find your magic and what makes you happy…and the peace and confidence in what is to come shall follow.